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  1. its the mom

    2018 Nutcracker - Costa Mesa

    Yikes, that's a lot of torch lifting in one week.
  2. Unfortunately, Cirio will not be dancing in this at the Guggenheim. He is dancing with Sarah Lane in the Dance St. Louis Evening of Ballet Stars that same evening. https://www.dancestlouis.org/balletstars
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    ABT 2018 Fall season

    I am with you. I really liked AfterRite and was happy to see the company take on a McGregor work. My problem is much like everyone else's in that between casting and the works chosen, I do not have the desire to go see any of the shows. I would like to see Hoven in Symphonie Concertante and one of his performances is paired with AfterRite, but on a night I can't be there. There are not any other works I really have the desire to see.
  4. Not in any way defending Finlay or any of the other guys. However: Revenge porn is more common than we think: https://fightthenewdrug.org/need-to-know-facts-about-revenge-porn/ And sexting: http://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-sexting-sexual-satisfaction-20150807-story.html Why would we think this has not been happening in the ballet world prior to this time, that it is somehow new to this world? They just got caught.
  5. Ok, I see. I misunderstood. Thanks for the clarification. And, yes, I agree. A violation of trust and community standards is certainly at play here.
  6. I guess I feel differently, knowing some of the young girls at SAB. As a parent, I would not want my daughter near any of them at this point.
  7. It is a bit different. The women of the company have to be partnered by those men. Would you be comfortable with that if it were your daughter?
  8. Resigned because he’s guilty; resigned before he could be investigated .... All our assumptions. Perhaps the company gave him a choice ... resign or we let you go. We do not know, and we may never know.
  9. "We reached out to a variety of authorities in the field to hear their reactions to her statement:" A range of quotes follows from various figures in the ballet world including one from Jenifer Ringer--here is the link: https://www.dancemagazine.com/alexandra-waterbury-2602545003.html?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1 Perhaps this should be the beginning of a different topic? Wasn't sure...but the content of one or two of the quotes made me think maybe just put it here. Skybetter was on target: "Waterbury's story and sentiment abundantly rhyme with the pattern of ballet history. Feminist critic Deirdre Kelly, scholar Brenda Dixon Gottschild and historian Jennifer Homans (among others) have abundantly demonstrated how ballet sits at the historical intersection of structures of race, gender, power, sex and violence. Arguably, one outcome of this history is that institutions like NYCB have become adroit at the management of legal protections and tactical public relations required to contain discourse on abuse." And this from Harss: "We all know that the behavior alleged in this case is wrong, but what we need to know is whether it's systemic and widespread so that real steps can be taken to make it less likely to happen again."
  10. Finlay and Lovette have not been a couple for quite awhile. She has been dating Barton Cowperthwaite for at least two years now. (according to instagram)
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    ABT 2018 Fall season

    How unimaginative. But it will certainly sell tickets, especially with the release of "The Nutcracker and the Four Realms" shortly thereafter. They will capitalize on it, I am sure.
  12. And she is implying that it festered in the absence of Martins. Should we assume that Finlay would not have acted in this manner had Martins still been in charge? Sorry, I don't buy that.
  13. "It was allowed to fester in our current leaderless state." Leaderless? Does she/do we actually believe Finlay's behavior would be different had Martins still been at the helm? Is that what she is implying?
  14. I agree. I read nothing about a warning. Substance abusers and other types of relational abusers can hide their problems. How many times have we read about domestic abuse surfacing well into a relationship? (Do not hear what I am not saying. I am not accusing anyone of domestic abuse.) What I am saying is that when first entering a relationship, one is not aware of any issues their partner may have. Those are revealed in time. What does it say about Lauren Lovette for dating Finlay and being engaged to him (if we throw jabs at Waterbury.) So, until his side of the story is revealed and the hearing/trial takes place, I hope we can refrain from any victim shaming. Because, in reality, that's what it is.
  15. Having spoken to a number of dancers outside of the NYCB community, I know many are grappling with the situation at hand. Remember that the dance community is a small one. Many of these dancers grew up together, going to summer programs together, auditioning together, etc. So, while many of them are appalled by the alleged behavior, they are conflicted in their feelings. Additionally, some of the silence may be a respect for the families of the dancers mentioned, as parents of dancers also become friends. As Kathleen has said, people both inside and outside of the company are trying to come to grips with their feelings.